Wisdom Tending Women's Circle & Journey Guide: For Midlife & Beyond

Deep within you is a primal memory of women, circling up together.

To support, encourage and stand by each other.

To share stories and tend wisdom.

And most of all, to find their way back to themselves.

These days it's unusual to experience this kind of ongoing connection.

Instead of sitting face-to-face with your wise sisters in a women's circle, you might be hanging out on FaceBook or Instagram.

And instead of sinking into meaningful conversations, you might be speaking in short bursts of text or direct messages.

Still, the yearning to connect doesn't go away.

You sense it in your bones during midlife, the very real urge to tend your deepest wisdom in the company of other women. And you understand that the feelings of belonging you get from scrolling and clicking don't make up for the real thing.

Instead, you're craving a safe place for all of you: your if only’s and late night longings. Your doubts and hopes. The messy parts and the joyful parts of life.

Maybe there's something more, too, that you can’t quite name or put your finger on. It's elusive, but it's there: an elemental desire to collect all the parts of you and claim your innate wholeness.

Is it your time to take this journey back to you, joined by kindred spirits along the way? If you hunger to truly belong, both to yourself and to a community of women, then the Wisdom Tending Women's Circle is perfect for you.

The group restored my faith in people and helped me realize that deep connections with women are possible. I learned so much from what the other women were thinking and going through.

- Past women's circle member

There is a place for you in this unique midlife women's circle.

Wisdom Tending is a lovely mix: women's circle, personal retreat time, coaching, journaling. For women in midlife and beyond.

Wisdom Tending offers real support, live connection, contemplative activities and taking the time to nurture your life and yourself.

Wisdom Tending helps you move away from the distractions and chatter of daily life and move towards the feelings, behaviors, experiences and practices that matter most to you.

Wisdom Tending is for you if you're...

  • tired of rushing through life, overwhelmed and distracted
  • craving deep, ongoing connection with a small group of women
  • longing for a safe community where you can explore and be real
  • inspired by the collective wisdom of women’s stories
  • intrigued by the idea of writing together with other women
  • pretty sure it's time to nurture your wisdom and actually live it
  • ready to slow down, move out of autopilot and dive into your needs

Wisdom Tending Women's Circle Details

  • Online women's circle, group coaching and reflective writing group
  • Live monthly gatherings on Zoom (February through October)
  • A written companion to support you:Wisdom Tending Journey Guide
  • Guided meditations and complementary creative invitations
  • Discounts on depth coaching sessions with Patty

Wisdom Tending is returning in January 2023. Scroll down to add your name to the waitlist.

I realized that I needed to recognize other aspects of my life. I had totally neglected my passions for so long that I had forgotten exactly what does make me happy. The result is that I’ve done things I never expected to do.

- Past women's circle member

Together, we'll explore the deep connection between wisdom and reflective writing

Personal journaling and writing within a group of supportive companions during midlife is one of the quickest routes to inner wisdom. Not only does it nurture and nourish, but also opens the channel to your wise, intuitive self.

During our circles we write together as a way to peer beneath the surface, give voice to our stories and return to what matters most.

We also write and create for the joy of it, letting our words and images flow. We learn to trust that our imaginations will take us where we need to go.

And most certainly, writing together helps us come alive and feel connected to one another. It's a vehicle for mindfulness, healing and insight, as well as a sanctuary in and of itself.

Here, we make room for all of it, yet we don't dwell in the wounded places. We come full circle, with a variety of writing activities and practices that will ground you and bring you home to wisdom, hope and possibility.

You needn't consider yourself a writer to participate. If this stirs a longing within you, add your name to the waitlist below to be the first to know when Wisdom Tending registration opens in late summer 2022.

What parts of your life and yourself need tending and nurturing?

Whatever they are, they're welcome here. You’re invited to show up exactly as you are. Nothing to fix. No one to become, except more of your real self. Truly known for who you are. And free to be you. All of you.

I believe in you and know that with support, you'll discover your own particular way to partner with your innate wisdom and let it nurture and guide you.

*      *     *     *     *

When you register you'll get a written guide and companion to support your process: The Wisdom Tending Journey Guide

It includes both a PDF and audio recordings. I created it to help you access the deep wisdom of your mind, heart, body and spirit. It's filled with inviting stories, meaningful activities, supportive resources and inspiring poetry, prose and guided meditations.

You can dip into the materials whenever you want and with whatever topics are most compelling to you. You decide what works best, and if you need help with that decision I'll be there for you. But, there are absolutely no assignments to keep up with or expectations that you reach a certain outcome.

*      *     *     *     *

Wisdom tending is a different kind of women's circle.

It's grounded in depth psychology and inner work. It meets you wherever you are on the path of midlife and beyond. And it's a hybrid: part retreat, part women's circle, part group coaching, part reflective writing.

This might be very different from other women's circles or group coaching programs you've considered or participated in. In fact it might seem a bit unnerving, the thought of putting down the road map and joining others (with me as your compassionate guide), as you make your way through the forest of midlife and beyond.

*      *     *     *     *

But if you're here there's probably a part of you that longs for an invitation like this.

An invitation to pause. Stretch out. And give yourself space to breathe fully.

This part of you is ready for some gentle and heartfelt support. It knows you can trust your wisdom to guide you towards exactly what you need in your life and yourself right now. Because there is no wrong way to do this.

So rather than hard work, problem solving or self-improvement (which you definitely don't need more of in midlife), you might think of this as the sweet spot between deep personal exploration and meaningful action. Or, you can think of it as a women's circle with a twist.

*      *     *     *     *

Wisdom Tending Women's Circle Themes

  • Gathering and Savoring. The words wisdom and savor share a root word: Sapere. It means to taste, and not just in the culinary sense. So we begin with this invitation to embrace savoring as a path to wisdom tending in midlife and beyond.
  • Knowing and Not Knowing. There’s an essential paradox at the core of midlife. Although it’s often a time of uncertainty and confusion, there may also be a deeper sense of knowing exactly where you are. How do we wisely hold these two opposites?
  • Being With All of You. Our distant parts emerge and call to us in midlife and beyond. What does our wisdom tell us about welcoming and inviting these parts closer? How do we care for them with self-compassion and self-love?
  • Moving Away and Moving Toward. As we make our way through midlife it often feels like we’re in a continual cycle of moving away and moving toward, an urgency to clear out and make room. How do we tend our wisdom and avoid the burnout and overwhelm that can come during times like these?
  • Receiving and Opening to Let Things Come. Imagine being sought, rather than seeking. Reaching less, loosening the reins and stepping back to allow things to come. When we tend our deeper wisdom, stepping back and receiving can be the greatest gifts of midlife and beyond.
  • Celebrating Each Other. At the close of our circle we take time for shared appreciations. It’s a testament to the journey we’ve been on and it speaks volumes. It says we showed up, shared our stories, trusted the power of the circle, created together and allowed ourselves to be wise and vulnerable.

*      *     *     *     *

You get a bonus too: the attachments and bonds you create along the way.

When you take this journey with kindred spirits, you develop attachments and bonds that not only increase your wellbeing in the here and now, but also boost your self-belief and resilience for the road ahead. On the inside, you'll feel more supported, connected, peaceful and calm, even if nothing changes on the outside of your life.

I wanted to let you know how much I'm getting out of this. You certainly have an excellent way of helping others “see for themselves.” And I feel like I have known the other women for a LONG while, even if it is just a few months.

- Past women's circle member

Hi, I'm Patty, your women's circle guide

Wisdom Tending_ New women's support group with Santa Rosa therapist and Life Coach Patty BechtoldI tend women’s circles with a gentle hand, lightly guiding, deeply listening and taking care to create a safe and sacred space. I also share my own stories and dive into writing process with you.

As a board certified coach and a licensed psychotherapist, I’ve successfully guided both in-person and online/virtual women’s circles. I've also spent countless hours counseling, coaching, teaching, training, facilitating and leading groups.

My own teachers have included Carol Pearson, Pat Adson (author of Depth Coaching) and Michael Conforti, as well as Jonathan Young and Anne Bach. I'm a trained facilitator of the Pearson-Marr Archetype Indicator (PMAI). My master's thesis was a deep dive into the intersection of mature adult transition theory and creative counseling interventions. And most recently, I've studied at the Therapeutic Writing Institute.

But none of that had anything to do with why I created my first women’s circle back in 2011. I've been on the same path as you, and I created that first circle because I knew there were women out there who needed it just as much as I did.

Now, years later, we need circles of women more than ever, where we can join together to companion each other on the journey. So I hope you'll consider joining us!

This journey is fabulous and spurring movement for me in my personal world, work-land and marriage–a truly rich experience. I wish I could bottle you up and share you with my friends!

- Past women's circle member

What happens during a Wisdom Tending Women's Circle?

We circle up once a month, with a focus on our monthly theme. We make space for self-reflection, group process and group coaching.

I open each circle with a brief guided meditation to center and settle in, followed by personal journaling.

Then we'll dig into the month's theme. I'll introduce a specific activity from the Journey Guide that we'll complete together as a group.

After that you'll have personal retreat and small group time. We'll wrap up the circle activities with group coaching and questions.

Finally, our circle ends with a closing ritual to anchor our most important insights and takeaways.

I found the activities helpful in better understanding hidden parts and long-lost pieces of myself. Also, I am so amazed by the wisdom, insights, fragility, strength, humor, love, and hope these women have shown and shared.

- Past women's circle member

The Wisdom Tending Women's Circle will help you…

  • nurture both your inner life and outer life, soul and self
  • take time to regularly visit, nourish and replenish your well
  • begin to transform what no longer serves your life or growth
  • make space for more of what matters most to you
  • experience your life in harmony with your needs and values
  • find your personal sweet spot between being and doing
  • deepen your relationships with yourself and other women
  • light up your wisdom, imagination and sense of possibility

Take the next step and join Wisdom Tending

Wisdom Tending will return in January 2023.

Add your name to the waitlist below to be the first to know when registration opens.