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Wisdom Tending: A women's group for women in midlife and beyond

Deep within you is a primal memory of women, coming together.

To listen, encourage and share stories.

To tend and honor wisdom.

And most of all, to support and stand by each other.

It can be hard to find that kind of support these days.

Nowadays, instead of sitting face-to-face with others in a women's group, you might be hanging out on FaceBook or Instagram.

And instead of sinking into meaningful phone conversations, you might be speaking in short bursts of text.

Still, the yearning to connect doesn't go away.

You feel it in your bones, the yearning to tend your deepest wisdom in the company of women. And you understand this: the feelings of belonging you get from scrolling and clicking don't make up for the real thing.

You know you need a safe place to share your “if only’s” and late night longings. Your doubts and hopes. The messy parts and the joyful parts of life.

You also know there must be other women who feel just like you, at times overwhelmed by the weight of doing, or worried that they're not doing enough.

There's something more, too, something essential that you can’t quite name or put your finger on. It's elusive, but it's there: an elemental desire to collect the missing pieces and move towards wholeness.

You know it's time to discover (or rediscover) what it's like to take this journey with others, to truly belong within a women's group.

The group restored my faith in people and helped me realize that deep connections with women are possible. I learned so much from what the other women were thinking and going through.

- Past women's group member

There is a place for you in the Circle.

Wisdom Tending is a women’s group and reflective writing circle for women in midlife and beyond.

Wisdom Tending offers real support, live connection and taking the time to nurture your life and yourself.

Wisdom Tending helps you move away from the distractions and chatter of daily life and move towards the feelings, behaviors, experiences and practices that matter most to you.

Is Wisdom Tending a good fit for you?

  • You long to stop and nurture the parts of your life and yourself that need tending
  • You crave deep, ongoing connection with a small group of women (8 maximum)
  • You’re seeking a safe community where you can open up and be real
  • You gain insight and inspiration from the collective wisdom of women’s stories and experiences
  • You’re intrigued by the idea of writing together with other women
  • You know it's time to pay attention to your own deep wisdom and actually apply it to your life

Wisdom Tending Women's Group Details

Wisdom Tending is a four month women's group and reflective writing circle.

  • The next round of Wisdom Tending is tentatively scheduled for Fall 2019
  • We'll meet approximately 8 times, dates to be determined
  • Sign up below to be the first to learn about it

Additional Support: I'll share various materials with the group as we go along, all intended to inspire and encourage you. They may include writing prompts, selected poetry and prose, guided meditations and personal growth activities.

I realized that I needed to recognize other aspects of my life. I had totally neglected my passions for so long that I had forgotten exactly what does make me happy. The result is that I’ve done things I never expected to do.

- Past women's group member

Let's Write Our Way to Wisdom Together

Reflective writing not only nurtures and nourishes, but also opens the channel to our wise, intuitive selves. During our circles we write as a way to peer beneath the surface, to unveil what has been hidden and return to what matters most.

We also write for the joy of it, letting our pens flow and trusting that our imaginations will take us where we need to go.

And most certainly, we write to come alive.

When we engage in this way, our writing becomes a vehicle for mindfulness and insight, as well as a sanctuary in and of itself.

It may be quite different from the personal writing or journaling you’ve done before. Sometimes personal writing becomes an ongoing vent on the page, with no end in sight. Here, we have a variety of activities and practices, backed by neuroscience, that will ground you and bring you back to wisdom, hope and possibility.

You don’t have to consider yourself a writer to be a part of the Wisdom Tending women's group. If the sound of it stirs a longing within you, then you are in the right place.

What parts of your life and yourself need tending and nurturing?

Whatever they are, they're welcome here, and you’re invited to show up exactly as you are. Nothing to fix. No one to become, except more of your real self. Truly known for who you are. And free to be you...all of you.

You'll be encouraged to claim your innate wisdom, partnering with it and letting it nurture and guide you. But there are absolutely no expectations that you reach a certain outcome.

And when you do this within a group of kindred spirits, you develop attachments and bonds that not only increase your wellbeing in the here and now, but also boost your self-belief and resilience for the road ahead. On the inside, you'll feel more supported, connected, peaceful and calm, even if nothing changes on the outside of your life.

I wanted to let you know how much I'm getting out of this. You certainly have an excellent way of helping others “see for themselves.” And I feel like I have known the other women for a LONG while, even if it is just a few months.

- Past women's group member

Hi, I'm Patty, your Wisdom Tending guide

Wisdom Tending_ New women's support group with Santa Rosa therapist and Life Coach Patty BechtoldI tend women’s circles with a gentle hand, lightly guiding, deeply listening and taking care to create a safe and sacred space. I also share my own stories and dive into writing process with you.

As a board certified coach and a licensed psychotherapist, I’ve successfully guided both in-person and online/virtual women’s circles. I've also spent countless hours counseling, coaching, teaching, training, facilitating and leading groups. And most recently, I've studied at the Therapeutic Writing Institute.

I created my first women’s group back in 2011. Now, years later, we need circles of women more than ever. And if any of this resonates with you, I’d be delighted to have you join me in the Wisdom Tending women's group.

This journey is fabulous and spurring movement for me in my personal world, work-land and marriage–a truly rich experience. I wish I could bottle you up and share you with my friends!

- Past women's group member

What happens during a Wisdom Tending Circle?

We begin with a brief centering meditation and a short writing activity, followed by check-ins and sharing. During the first hour there's ample time for group discussion and exploring monthly themes and activities.

After a short break, we'll engage in a simple writing/reflective journaling process, to deepen your wisdom on our theme and bring personal insight.

We focus on the transformational process of writing rather than the product. You’re encouraged (but never pressured) to read your writing in the circle, and if you do it will be deeply appreciated but never critiqued or judged.

We'll end with followup coaching and a closing ritual to share our most important insights and experiences, and say how we want to take them out into the world.

I found the activities helpful in better understanding hidden parts and long-lost pieces of myself. Also, I am so amazed by the wisdom, insights, fragility, strength, humor, love, and hope these women have shown and shared.

- Past women's group member

The Wisdom Tending Circle will help you…

  • nurture both your inner life and outer life, soul and self
  • begin to transform what no longer serves your life or growth
  • make space for more of what matters most to you
  • experience your life in harmony with your needs and values
  • find your personal sweet spot between being and doing
  • deepen your relationships with yourself and other women
  • light up your wisdom, imagination and sense of possibility

Take the next step and join Wisdom Tending

Ready to say yes? Then let's schedule a brief information call to get to know each other a bit.

Before we talk I'll send you a Welcome Questionnaire to complete, and during our call I'll answer any questions you have so you can make sure this women's group feels right for you at this time.

I'll also give you information about how to make your first payment, and once you do, you're in! To schedule the call, click the link below.