Posts Tagged ‘santa rosa counselor’
The Myth of Making Time for Yourself. And What to Do Instead.
Have you ever read or heard someone say that making time for yourself is really important? I’m guessing that you have, since this advice is commonly directed at women. So in the first part of this post I’m sharing my thoughts about why it can be so hard to act on this advice, in spite…
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The Mindful Way Through Compare and Despair
Compare and despair. You’ve probably experienced that, right? That moment when you compare something about yourself or your life to someone else’s. In that moment you might find yourself tunneling down into uncomfortable feelings of distress and dismay, perhaps even edging toward a kind of despair. Something gets triggered for you, or you sense something’s missing about…
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10 things to tell yourself when self-compassion feels hard
In my day-to-day work as a therapist and coach, there’s often a theme that appears. It weaves its way through a week or a month. It keeps showing up, like brightly colored yarn that stands out in a multi-colored shawl. Most recently, that strand of yarn has been all about the reality that for many…
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You don’t need to worry about becoming who you’re meant to be
On my trips around the internet this the past month, I’ve seen a quite a few programs and services that want to guide you to “becoming who you’re meant to be.” But you know what? You already are exactly who you’re meant to be. So please don’t let anyone suggest you’re not. Because there’s a…
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Why this counselor and life coach is not on Facebook. Yet.
Yes, it’s true. I’m not on Facebook. But it’s not because I’m a social recluse or a technology-averse Luddite. The truth is, I’m not on Facebook because of my clients, and how I’ve seen it affect their well-being. Actually, Facebook and I go way back. Back to the days before it even existed. When I…
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