Self-Esteem & Self-Compassion

photo, green vine on white wall; words, the myth of making time for yourself and what to do instead, blog post by Santa Rosa therapist Patty Bechtold wiselifetherapy.com

The Myth of Making Time for Yourself. And What to Do Instead.

Have you ever read or heard someone say that making time for yourself is really important? I’m guessing that you have, since this advice is commonly directed at women. So in the first part of this post I’m sharing my thoughts about why it can be so hard to act on this advice, in spite…

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Tree, words_ the mindful way through compare and despair, blog post by Patty Bechtold therapy for women, wiselifetherapy.com

The Mindful Way Through Compare and Despair

Compare and despair. You’ve probably experienced that, right? That moment when you compare something about yourself or your life to someone else’s. In that moment you might find yourself tunneling down into uncomfortable feelings of distress and dismay, perhaps even edging toward a kind of despair. Something gets triggered for you, or you sense something’s missing about…

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photo, vine wood fence, words, holding space for yourself, what is yours to know and hold, blog post by Santa Rosa therapist Patty Bechtold at wiselifetherapy.com

Holding Space for Yourself: What is Yours to Know and Hold and Keep

Today I’m writing about an intuitive, creative and metaphorical approach to holding space for yourself. I’ll explain what holding space means, and share my own recent experience of it. It may help you feel more in tune with your own deeper needs, deeper nature and deeper boundaries. Many wise words have been written about holding…

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mug on blue table, blog post from Santa Rosa therapist Patty Bechtold at wiselifetherapy.com

It’s Time to Embrace Your Quiet Knowing

You have a quiet knowing deep within that has always been present. It’s there. It has always been there. It will always be there. It winds through the dusky-dawn junctions of knowing and not knowing. It’s of you. And in you. And circling through you. Always. Your quiet knowing that has always been present. But sometimes, without…

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