Depression & Anxiety

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The Myth of Making Time for Yourself. And What to Do Instead.

Have you ever read or heard someone say that making time for yourself is really important? I’m guessing that you have, since this advice is commonly directed at women. So in the first part of this post I’m sharing my thoughts about why it can be so hard to act on this advice, in spite…

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You Are Doing the Best You Can: Thoughts from a Therapist

It’s okay. You are doing the best you can. How often do you say those words to yourself? As a therapist and coach I say them to my clients a lot. I believe we don’t hear these words often enough, or might even think that they’re throw away words when we do hear them. And…

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Creating Boundaries Online: What Needs Your Care and Tending?

This is a followup to my last post, where I wrote about my big aha related to the negative effects of screen time on women. It was inspired by Jenny Odell’s book, How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy. Today I’ll share insights and strategies about creating boundaries with the online world. The idea…

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My Big Aha About the Negative Effects of Screen Time on Women

My Big Aha About Women and Too Much Screen Time (and a book to help). You’ve heard about the negative effects of screen time, right? I’m betting you know that screens can affect your sleep/wake cycles. They can also leave your body and brain feeling foggy, sluggish and unused, not to mention a lot of…

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Walk Away from Over Responsibility

I’ve seen women insist on cleaning everything in the house before they could sit down to write… and you know it’s a funny thing about housecleaning… it never comes to an end. Perfect way to stop a woman. A woman must be careful to not allow over-responsibility…to steal her necessary creative rests, riffs, and raptures.…

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